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Discipline Without Distress Book

135 Tools for raising caring, responsible children without time-out, spanking, punishment or bribery

Discipline that you AND your child will feel good about!

Discipline Without Distress bestselling book


The best non-punitive parenting book for living with "spirited" children

Includes 50 Bonus pages of charts of the most common behaviours and exactly what to do about them!

At last, a positive discipline book that is chock-full of practical tips, strategies, skills, and ideas for parents of babies through teenagers, without using any form of punishment or bribery, and it also explains EXACTLY what to do "in the moment" for every type of behaviour, from whining to web-surfing.

  • How to handle your anger in the moment
  • How to take a parent time-out with children underfoot
  • How to limit screen time with no battles
  • How to de-stress your life
  • How to handle public misbehaviour while keeping cool
  • How to get more patience
  • How to break the yelling habit
  • How to get children to co-operate
  • How to respectfully handle situations when your child is defiant
  • How to stay with your "no"
  • Includes child development charts so you will know what is appropriate behaviour for your child's age
  • How to handle tantrums, whining, biting, hitting, chores, homework, bedtimes, apologies, picky eating, "attitude", sibling fighting, manners, video game obsession, and many other difficult discipline situations, without resorting to spanking, time-out, logical (punitive) consequences and punishments.

Parents and children today face very different challenges from those faced by the previous generation. Today's children play not only in the sandbox down the street, but also in the World Wide Web, which is too big and complex for parents to control and supervise. As young as age four, your children can contact the world and the world can contact them. A strong bond between you and your child is critical in order for your child to regard you as their trusted advisor.

Traditional discipline methods no longer work with today's children, and they destroy your ability to influence your increasingly vulnerable children who need you as their lifeline! You need new discipline tools!

Table Of Contents

    Part One: Why we need to change our discipline tools

  • Chapter 1 The purpose of discipline: Teach, not hurt
  • Chapter 2 Build the bond: Be the person you want them to be
  • Chapter 3 Discipline, not punishment: Stay with your "no" and honor your words
  • Chapter 4 Punishments and bribes don't work: Look for the need or feeling (NOF) under the behaviour
  • Chapter 5 Good parents feel angry: Separate your anger from your discipline
  • Chapter 6 Your child is unique: All the factors that affect discipline
  • Parent Two: Tools from the trenches

  • Chapter 7 Discipline Tools for Babies 0-1 Years: Attachment
  • Chapter 8 Discipline Tools for Toddlers 1-2 Years: Action
  • Chapter 9 Discipline Tools for Preschoolers 3-5 Years: Action then talk
  • Chapter 10 Discipline Tools for School-Aged children 6-12 Years: Talk then action
  • Chapter 11 Discipline Tools for Teenagers 13-19 Years: Negotiate
  • Chapter 12 Technology Without Distress: Educate, not ban
  • Discipline Tool Summary for Common Behaviours

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Parents Magazine June 2012 "Discipline for Softies"

Review by End Hitting USA Organization

Review by the Family Resource Programs of Canada

"Discipline Without Distress is a thorough, detailed manual of non-violent, non-punitive gentle ways to address common behaviour problems for every age, from toddler to teen" Mothering Magazine September/October 2008

Review by Mothering Magazine

Recommendation by ParentsCanada Magazine

Best Parenting Book Eric Hoffer Award Winner


Elizabeth Pantley

"The world is in desperate need of gentle, caring discipline techniques. Judy Arnall has created a wonderful, nurturing guide that all parents can benefit from."

Elizabeth Pantley, Author of The No-Cry Sleep Solution and The No-Cry Solution series.

Linda Adams

"Offers a wealth of ideas and suggestions for raising children without the use of punishment of any kind."

Linda Adams, President and CEO of P.E.T., Parent Effectiveness Training, Gordon Training International.

Naomi Aldort

"Parents always prefer to be loving but often don't know how. Arnall's book debunks all the old beliefs about discipline through painful measures such as punishment, consequences or bribes and provides far more effective and kind ways to raise well-behaved and thriving children."

Naomi Aldort Ph.D. Author, Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves

"Arnall, a parent educator with vast organization experience and a mother of five children, admits that one size does not fit all. Her approach is based on both the age and needs of the child. No spanking, no time-outs, no bribery. This book is dense and wide-ranging in its discussions and approaches."

U.S. Book Review

"There are good solid tips for parents of children of all ages."

Kathy Lynn, Parenting Today

"Learn the nuts and bolts of raising resilient children."

Patricia Morgan, speaker, counselor and author of The Light Hearted Approach: 87 Ways to Be an Upbeat Parent and Love Her As She Is: Lessons from a Daughter Stolen by Addictions

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Global News, "Repeal Section 43 the Spanking Law"

Calgary Herald February 27, 2007 "A Kinder Way to Discipline Kids"

Canadian law must reflect current research on the harmful effects of physical punishment, in the best interests of our children.

CMA Doctors Support Repeal 43 Spanking Law


Print ISBN 97809780509-00 $24.95 CAN, $19.95 US

Trade Paperback, 440 pages, 6 X 9 inches, perfect bound

E-Book ISBN 97809780509-08 $12.99 CAN, $9.99 US

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